This section of our site is pertaining to the unification of children and their lost family when they get old enough to find out the truth or decide they want the truth and go looking fr it.. Some many times they can't locate the lost family, so that is why we have teamed up with Search & Find http://www.search-and-find-usa.com to help them locate that much needed missing family. Depending on the circumstances, these services can be reduced or in some cases free.
Some children are very young when they lose family, others are old enough to remember faces and places. They may recognize someone they pass on the street, they may go looking for the last known residence they remember.
We can't tell you to stay in the same house for years waiting for them to come back...but we can tell you that in at least our founder's situation that is exactly what happened. She refused to move from the house where they knew she lived the last time they were there...they came looking for that house and the miracle began after 7 very long years.
While we do admit there are cases where children need to be removed from threatening situations. We understand that parents make wrong choices and they put their children in harm's way. We know there are children that live in horrible dwellings and haven't enough to eat because their parents choose drugs, alcohol and a list of other things over their own children. Please understand that is not the chidlren we are talking about. We are talking about the children that are taken from one parent or the other due to strained relationships between the parents and they make their children pay for their own pain.
We are talking about the children that love both parents, but one parent hates the other and will do anything to hurt that other parent...makes no difference if they ruin their children's lives in the process. We are talking about the parent that learns how to work the system and uses the courts to destroy their ex's lives...once again makes no difference if the ruin their children's lives in the process.
We are talking about the chidlren of parents that one parent just takes off and leaves and never allows their chidlren to see their other family again.
We are talking about the children that are told that one parent didn't want them and doesn't love them and left and never looked back.
We are talking about the children of a parent where child support was set so high they couldn't pay it. Children of a parent that couldn't find work and therefore got behind on child support. We are talking about the of a parent that tried with everything they had and still couldn't satisify the courts and they lose their children.
A sad part of this is the losing parent, there is no denying that...but the injustice in ALL of these cases if the losing children. They lose a parent they love. They lose a parent the trust. They lose a parent they depend on...and all for what.
Let's see if we can put that into words. Mommy doesn't want Daddy around anymore. Daddy doesn't want Mommy around anymore. Mommy or Daddy or both have moved on and their spouses are jealous of the ex and refuse to allow a happy step-family situation. Daddy or Mommy has a new friend and that makes the ex unhappy so they make them pay by taking the children and turning them against the parent that is trying to do right and move on at the same time.
Now that we have explained how we got to this point or at least explained a small portion of what the problem might be, we want to explain how they do "COME HOME".
Depending on the child's age at the time of the loss of the other parent or grandparents...they do come looking to get answers. Be ready to give them the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help you God. The have been lied to enough...they have been hidden and brain washed for the most part the whole time they have been gone, so they need you to tell them the truth and help them put their lives about together.
You should always remember they are still the children of the parent that caused all this problem and until they know the whole truth and have come to terms with it, they will not tolerate the downgrading of that parent. You must provide them with the truth and then allow them to decide how they deal with it. If you try to turn them against the parent at fault you will lose them. They have had enough of people trying to run their lives with lies and
innuendos. Don't allow yourself to turn into the very person that kept them from you.
It is very hard to understand the part of being the good guy, UNLESS you have lived this life as a child. Your child(ren) need you to be the person that will stand up for them, guide them, point them in the right direction and by all means love them more then you love to hate the other parent.
God did not send you child(ren) to own. He picked you as the parent of your child(ren) to teach the right way to go and help them develope into productive adults. He doesn't make mistakes, so he must have meant for you to be one half of the team it takes to raise your child(ren). Respect yourself and especially your child(ren) by doing what is right by them.
But, if you find yourself in a situation of being without your child(ren) for weeks, months and even years, we encourage you to put a beacon in the window so they can find their way home. They do COME HOME!
Children Deserve Loving
GrandParents when they
finally come home.
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Their first step may be towards the grandparents when they decide to take that chance. This is a safe road for them. Testing the waters with grandma and grandpa makes them feel as if they can back out if they decide not to
pursue
the parent. We pray that grandparents can understand not to push them towards the parent...if they have come this far, they will make the rest of the journey if allowed to do so on their own terms.
After all they made this step, they will make the rest of them if you let them.
NEVER UNDER-ESTIMATE LOVE |
IF YOU ARE ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE THAT GIVES WHAT YOU GET...TRY GIVING WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO RECEIVE.
NERVER UNDER-EXTIMATE THE POWER OF THE LOVE OF A CHILD
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