We would like to see the Family Courts have a panel (jury) make the decision of adoption when there is a parent fighting to stay in their child's life. No one man should have the right to take a man's children when there are NO reasons shown or proven other than back child support. We do not choose our parents, GOD assigns them to whom he wishes, and he does that for a reason, because that is where he wants those children to be.
We also want to see someone stand up for these children. Someone should be able to talk to them, listen to them, answer questions for them and ultimately do the right thing for the children. These children are victims and for the most part are never allowed to speak, unless they are 14 and then in the state of Georgia they are required to sign a piece of paper giving up their rights to their father. Most of these children do this without questioning the custodial parent just to keep peace in their new family.
What I have come to understand over the past sixteen years does not make me feel good about the justice for our children of divorce. We are a country that does so much for others, but we do not watch out for the best interest of our children of divorce. Children of divorce have no one to speak for them. Children of divorce have nowhere to turn when their parents cannot get along. Children of divorce have only one ally and that is the custodial parent. If that parent hates the other parent, and she wants to hurt him, the courts will allow her to do that, and her children have to pay for what she does. They have no idea the torment they are putting these children through. I know the living hell it is, “I was that little girl”.
This site will show you how a Mother can use two states to completely take a man's children from him, and neither state does anything to stop her. Most of the attorneys that handle cases of this nature for women use the oldest tricks in the book, and no one but the other side sees through it. Does the court step in and stop the devastation the children are being put through? NO! They see the wrongdoing, the so-called oldest tricks in the book, but they do nothing.
Our main focus is to bring attention to the lack of Father's and Children's rights in the United States . Our fight is with the states of Georgia and Alabama , but we are very aware that this can happen between any two states.
When two people come together for whatever reason and there is a child born of that union, at that point that child has the right (A GOD GIVEN RIGHT) to have both parents in their life. They have the right to know the truth about the situation. They should never be made to choose between their parents. Just because one parent chooses not to stay with the other parent, no matter what the reason, the child should NEVER be made to pay the price for that choice.
We do realize that there are circumstances that make it impossible for these rules to be met. However there should be a full investigation of both sides before children are deprived of their Father, or their Mother for that matter. When the other parent moves on and has custody, way too often these precious children loose the other parent. Our fight is to stop the children from having to pay for these actions.
Our hearts are broken. I have learned so much through this whole ordeal, and we are going to share it with you in hopes of keeping this from happening to someone else.
My Dad ran off before I was born and I was then kept from my mother by a very jealous grandmother, and it nearly destroyed my whole life.
My grandmother and her second husband adopted me. They had forced my mother to sign adoption papers when I was six. I loved him, but I never really felt whole. I was always this little adopted kid, and then when I was ten he died. My whole world turned upside down at that point. I was now the little adopted kid that didn't have a real daddy or an adopted one either.
Children who have grown up this way, grow up to feel empty and lost. They have something missing from who they are.
People ask me, how do I know all these things, and I can honestly tell them, “BECAUSE I WAS THAT LITTLE GIRL”.
Being adopted as a very small child, I would go to bed at night, cover my head so I would not be heard and cry myself to sleep. I would have been in so much trouble if my grandmother (adopted mother) had heard me crying, so going under the cover made me feel safe and secure from the wrath of a very jealous grandmother. My adopted dad was a wonderful man, however he was not my dad and I knew that. Then at 10 my world came crashing down, he died, and the beginning of my demise begun.
When I was grown, I had the opportunity to face my mother: what I learned was nowhere close to what I had been told for years. I never really forgave my grandmother after I found out the truth. I did however build a relationship with my Mother and then went on the hunt for my real Dad.
My friends this is the reason I help my son fight this terrible wrong. When I finally found my Dad, HE WAS DEAD! I went to his grave and when I looked down at his marker and saw the name Foster Dutton, I was devastated. There was a grave and it had my daddy's name on it and under that dirt was a man that I had looked and prayed for all of my life. I screamed and I cried and I begged for God to help me understand. I had finally found the man that was my Father and he could not even tell me why he had left, HE WAS DEAD.
I had thirteen years with my Mother and she then died in my arms. I wrapped my arms around her and held on very tightly as she drew her last breath. My mother brought me into a world of hurt and pain, but she and I had become the very best of friends and I held her tight while she left this world.
On Feb. 17, 2005 my mother had been dead for 22 years and I was in the middle of the hardest fight of my life, the fight to keep my son's children from being adopted.
My son is a good man and he loves his children with all his heart, as I do. He and I both have vowed to fight until we make this right. While doing that we would like to invite you to help our cause and if you are fighting a similar battle we would love to hear from you.
Our goal is to protect the innocent. The children are innocent and did not ask to be brought into a broken home. They have no choice but to endure the pain of this life forever. It is our goal to see that these innocent children are watched over and allowed to keep in touch with their natural parent when at all possible. |