“Info We Acquired”

We have found an amazing amount of information about the attorneys that work in the family law industry.

Here you will find information in general…as well as proven information people have sent us about attorneys…or information about the attorneys that we ourselves have dealt with first hand.

We are doing our best to put accurate information on our site. If you find something here you feel to be incorrect…please feel free to e-mail us what you believe to be the truth at three3sides@aol.com and we will check it out and do what ever is necessary to bring the information up to date.

Our only goal on this page and our whole site is to help change the family court system…to make life better for families…and especially the children…by helping a very broken system to work better than it does. We know there is no chance of ever fixing it 100%…but we do believe that anything in the right direction would be better than what we have now.

Children are suffering at the hands of greedy attorneys…unfair judges…and custodial parents that care more about hurting their ex…then they care about doing what is right for their children.

We know of cases where fathers…their children…the grandparents and the whole family have had their lives turned upside down by greedy attorneys…unfair judges…and custodial parents that hate their ex more than they love their children.

We want to make sure that EVERYONE knows…there are very good attorneys in the family law industry…very well educated…experience in their hip pocket…and willing to go that extra mile. We also need for EVERYONE to know…so very many of these same attorneys are the very ones that are ruining people's lives.

It is no wonder that attorneys wind up doing what is NOT right in all situations…after all they are getting paid to do the very opposite of what is best for the children…and the law allows it.

When a married person with children walks into an attorney's office enquiring about a divorce…in most cases…they either want to take the kids from their spouse…or they are the spouse that has been thrown out…and they are about to lose their kids. If the attorney takes the case…they do what ever it takes to comply with what their client wants…at that point…the children do not matter…it only matters if they have enough money to make what they want happen…they are paying the bill…so the kids get what they are given…which most of the time is the shaft.

If we could poll all the young attorneys as they graduate law school to see what their goal in life is going to be from this day forward…we truly believe that the poll would lean in the direction of doing the right thing and changing the world. What goes wrong? When do they divide their soul and learn to work in both directions? Why do they lose sight of doing the right thing and changing the world? When do they learn to see green and forget the blue they help to put in a child's life?

I am the founder of this organization and I know some very good attorneys. They live and work right here in my town. I am sure there are many…many of them all over the country. I have watched these attorneys while they were young and as they grew into seasoned attorneys…and if the whole world is full of the same kind of attorneys that are practicing in my town…then I am very sad to say…that is what is wrong with our family court system today.

We must do something to change a system that is run by people that do not have a clue what real life is about. We must teach them what really happens when they destroy families. No one looks towards the day after…and no one considers what the children are MADE to endure. It only matters that the marriage is ending…and who has the money to hire the best attorney… or… in many cases it only matters which way the case can make the most money… or sadly… which attorney has the best relationship with the judge.

We must find a way to help families stay together…the things that cause so many families to split up…should be addressed…and these families should be helped…instead of so readily helping them to split.

 Divorce is so often not the fix for a bad situation. Divorce with children is the beginning of a child's unhappy future. Only when completely necessary…and all avenues have been completely explored should anyone go through a divorce.

A MARRIAGE SHOULD START WITH

“May you love each other your whole lives…the way you love each other at this very moment”

A DIVORCE SHOULD START WITH

“May neither of us deliberately try to hurt the other…and above all…may we both together and apart…do the best thing for our child.”

I walked into an attorney's office many years ago wanting to file for divorce. I could have been talked into signing on the dotted line…things were not good in my house…and I wanted out. I was crying and needed help. This attorney showed me a desk…a phone…and said to me…do you really want a divorce…or do you want to call and talk to him first. I looked at him and said…I want a divorce…he walked out of the room and left me with the phone.I sat there looking at the phone…crying my eyes out…picked up the phone…called my husband and ask him did he really want a divorce, to which he replied…NO! I asked him to come and get me…we have been married almost 18 years…things have not always been good. Things have been the very pits at times…but I love him and I am glad we stuck it out.

If it had not been for the loan of a desk and a phone in an attorney's office where I was determined to file for divorce…I would have walked away from a very good man…one that has cared for me and stuck it out through thick and thin. Yes, it has been hard…and at times not at all what I wanted…but I thank God for him and together we have raised my children and his. We share 14 grandchildren and I would not have it any other way.

If I told you what has taken place between us…you would probably say…no…not me, but because of a very sympathetic attorney we are growing old together and loving each other…what more could you want in your golden years.

Now, I would like to say that the attorney that loaned me his office…his desk…and his phone…and could have drawn up the papers and easily gotten me to sign them…for a divorce that I am glad I never went through with…is the very same attorney that (14 years later) wanted $10,000.00 to take my son's case and stop the adoption of my grandchildren. He also charged me a $212.00 consultation fee to listen to our story…and to tell me that his fee was going to be $10,000.00 and I had to pay the $10,000.00 up front. He also told me as I was leaving his office crying my eyes out… ”I do not go into court to lose”. Little did I know at the time that this case would end up costing tens of thousands of dollars…and we would not be allowed to see the girls…or they were not even told the truth about our fight…these children have no idea how much we love them and how hard we have fought for them.

I used to have all the respect in the world for this attorney…but the day he wanted more money than I could have ever put my hands on…was the day I lost that respect. He knew that my husband and I were still together…he also knew my husband made very good money…and I guess he thought I would pay it. At the time my husband and I together could not have put our hands on $10,000.00…and my son wasn't even back to work yet. I think maybe this attorney could have won this case for us…but because of the lack of $10,000.00 in one lump sum…we could not have a good attorney represent us. I wonder how he sleeps at night…but I guess he sleeps better than me…cause I suspect he neither realizes what he did…nor whom he did it to. That is a shame in my book…cause I will never forget.

The point I am trying to make…attorneys start out wanting to do right…but as time goes on…they get so obsessed with money that they lose sight of why they went to law school in the first place. It seems to me…they could make good money and do the right thing too. I guess that would mean they would have to make less money…even though still very good money…and do what is right for all that need it. Wow…how good could you sleep then!

The only other recourse we see that would work is to teach young people while they are in grades 1 – 12 how to handle their legal cases…cause if things keep going the way they are now…you will need to be in court at least once a month to answer for the everyday happenings of the family court system.

May you only get in as much trouble as you have money to get you out!

 May you marry the right person…and if you don't…may you realize your children need the both of you…after all…you were both needed to bring that child into this cruel world you have given them. Be there for them…please don't make them chose between you…and don't make them give up the other half of who they are.