Custodial Parents

As the custodial parent you hold all of the cards. You have choices. You can completely rip the heart out of your ex (the person you once loved enough to have children with) or not. The same goes for your children. You can keep them from a parent that they love as much as they love you, or not.

If you loved your ex enough to have children with them there must have been some good in them, right? Just because you two are no longer together, that doesn't change.

Now, as for your children, what have they done to deserve being kept from one of the two people in the world that love them more than anything (and that they feel the same way about). Why would you ever want to hurt them that way?

Also, do you realize what it does to your children when you keep them away from the other parent? Or when you try to turn them away from the other person? Your children do not deserve being treated this way. You may not realize it but every mean or hurtful thing you say towards your ex hurts your children.

You are still in control but, you now have other choices. You can still cause pain and sorrow to your ex “and” your children (and in some ways yourself), or you can help everyone heal. Believe it or not, the person you are separated from or divorcing (you know, the one you want to rip the heart out of) just might end up being not quite so bad. No, I am not saying you will ever get back together, but you just might not hate the other person as much one day.

Try it. Share your children with your ex for a while. See how powerful their love for THE BOTH OF YOU can be. Believe it or not, it will not hurt to try.