Grandparent Rights

Take a look around you. In the doctor's office, the mall or right in the middle of Wal-Mart, they are everywhere. In the park, at the movies, riding motorcycles and going to little league. They are with their babies when they have surgery, get sick and have to go to the dentist.

GRANDPARENTS! WOW, what a wonderful group of people.

They wanted it all, done it all and saw it all, then like everybody else they had to grow up. They married, had families and raised their kids. Their kids wanted it all, did it all and saw it all, and then they too had to grow up. Some of them are still trying to grow up, but for the most part, they married had a family and began to raise their kids.

Their grandkids are every age from newborn to grandparents themselves. Today's grandparents are on the move and enjoying their grandkids. Our hats are off to those that get involved with their grandkids and make the lives of everyone sooooooo much better.

If you check back in time, you will find that Grandparents were whom they looked to for answers. Didn't matter what the question either, cause even though they were very old and looked as if they did not understand, they did understand very much and didn't mind sharing their experiences to help the young people.

Grandparents can show you and guide you in a way that you would never go, if you would just listen to them and take their advise. Young people think, “oh, what do they know, they are old”. But, they can share with you what happened to them when they did things that they now wish they had not done.

Oh, Grandparents, what a wonderful group of people. If you have a grandparent, and you need advise about just about anything, go to them, be honest, and ask them what they would do…chances are they can lead you in the right direction, IF YOU WILL ALLOW THEM.

While talking to an attorney for DHR one day about her son's case, our founder was told that her son's case was really none of her business. Taking this very much to heart, she asked the attorney, “If you have a child who's parents are unable or unwilling to care for their child for what even reason, who is the first person you call?' Without hesitation the attorney said, “We call the gran” and didn't even finish the word grandparents. Our founder bided her a good day and hung up. Even though our founder was already very involved in trying to help her son, she vowed that day at that very moment to never allow ANYONE to tell her again it was none of her business.

We would like all to know, grandparents are not these children's parents. Grandparents should not be allowed to run the lives of their children concerning their grandchildren and grandparents should not be responsible for raising their grandchildren. We would also like you to know that in a perfect world that would be perfect.

Problem is, we do not live in a perfect world. Parents don't always know what to do, and even when they do, they don't do it. So, if you look at our imperfect world and our imperfect society, and our way-out-of-sorts family law, you realize this country has a BIG problem.

When young people marry young, sometimes even getting permission from their parents, and most of the time they have children they are not ready to raise. They end up in divorce court and at the mercy of an already broken system.

So many of these children end up with grandparents, and the parents come home to visit on birthdays and holidays, but for the most part they are gone from these children's lives. Yet they say to a woman trying to help her son with his case, “this case is really none of your business” when the truth is, that grandmother probably loves those kids better than anyone on this earth.

NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE LOVE OF A GRANDMOTHER; THEY WILL FIGHT YOU WITH EVERYTHING THEY HAVE.

When a grandmother is willing to stick out her neck to help a very broken system and try to help her grandkids at the same time, she will not give up. No child should have to endure the heartache of a daddy being kept away if that child and that daddy love each other and trust each other and want to be with each other. Someone should be helping them stay together, not trying to rip them apart. If mother is going to have everything at her disposal to keep daddy away, then we strongly believe that the children should have their own attorney. DHR attorneys, do not do what is right for the children…they are interested only in making sure daddy pays and no matter what the reason, if he doesn't pay then in the eyes of DHR, he is unfit and should not be around his children.

Way too often, Mother has attorney through DHR, Daddy can't afford an attorney, and NO ONE SEES THAT THE CHILDREN ARE TREATED FAIRLY. More often than not, the children just have to deal with whatever Mother and DHR and the Judge decide that is in “THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD”.

We have found that in most cases and we realize that is not always, but in most cases a grandparent will tell you the truth about the lives of her grandchildren, even if it is not favorable about their own child. Grandparents love those babies enough to tell the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

If you are trying to keep a grandparent from your children, you are making one of the biggest mistakes of your life. You will cause your children to grow up missing a very vital part of their heritage. A grandparent can offer things to your child that you can only offer a child when you become a grandparent. Don't let yourself be so filled with hate that you destroy a connection with your child and their grandparent.

We believe that all things are set up in a family for a reason. If grandparents were not a very necessary part of a child's life, then there would be no grandparents in this world; there would be no reason for them.