When I got diagnosed with skin cancer in 2007, Melanoma. I called and told him and his reaction was, sorry to hear that, but mom I’m pretty busy right now.
The next year in 2008, I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. I called him for days and he never called back.
Finally I left a message on his wife’s cell phone to tell him because I didn’t want to upset him by leaving something so serious on his voicemail. I made the mistake of thinking he’d care! I never got a response! I ask him if he would come and be with me for my surgery, a total left mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. He told me he would have to see what was going on. He never did answer me, but on the day of my surgery he didn’t show up. However on the 2nd or 3rd day after my surgery he did call my cell phone while I was on drugs still in the hospital to tell me he and his family were on vacation in South Carolina with her family and what a great time they were having. I never heard from him through my recovery again.
Then came the Chemo treatments, followed by the radiation. After my second chemo I was feeling really bad and I called both my son and my daughter who live about and hour and a half away and ask them if they could come just be with me for a little bit. My daughter came and my son said ok, then called back and said his wife said he was needed at home and he wasn’t coming!
I finished all my treatments, 7 months worth with maybe 2 or 3 contacts from my son in hurried phone calls through the entire time. I finished up Chemo in March of 2009 and in April I had Easter at my house for my kids and grandkids. My daughter yelled at my sons 2 years old for smacking her 1 year old in the head. My son’s wife got very upset, she was pregnant for my grandson, whom I have never been invited to see, at that time. My daughter-in-law jumped up and said we’re leaving!! She grabbed my 2nd granddaughter and yelled at my son, who was almost asleep on my couch to come on!! And out the door she went.
My son got up and started to put my 3rd granddaughters shoes on, I was shocked! I started to cry. Then my daughter made some comment about my son’s kids needing discipline and he and she got into it! They were standing toe to toe, screaming at each other, my son threatened to bash my daughter in the face! Her daughter, my 1st granddaughter, got very upset that her uncle was going to hurt her mommy. I had to step in between them! Still wearing my wig, just started radiation, and having to stand in between my 2 grown children.
My daughter apologized after they left and I told her she didn’t have to be sorry for defending her child. My daughter-in-law made the statement that they would never come back to my house again! Over the next 3 days my daughter-in-law sent me nasty emails for defending my daughter. I sent some back hoping to get it all straight then finally realized it was a no win situation and ask her to stop emailing me.
In May of 2009 I got an email from my son telling me he nor his family ever wanted anything to do with me again and to leave them alone.
My grandson was born in June 15th 2009 and I was never notified. I found him in an online nursery website. I went to their house when he was 5 days old and knocked on the door, my son came to the door and I saw my only grandson for about 15 min. until my son told me they were going to be leaving soon.(My daughter-in-law stayed upstairs the entire time)
I have tried everything in the world to keep in contact with my son and my grandchildren but I get no kind of response what so ever. I even tried going to see the kids a second time in Aug. 2009 by stopping by and knocking on the door again. They were home, but no one would come to the door.
How do you let your own mother stand and knock on your door and you ignore her?
My son had told me at one time that his wife had told him he could have a wife or he could have a mother. What kind of person says something like that? Even more so, what kind of person allows someone to tell them they have to make that choice? I have not seen nor heard from my son or grandchildren in almost a year now.
I have begged,cried and anything I can think of in emails and voicemails and text messages to see my precious grandchildren and I have never got any responce what so ever. Our children should not be allowed to use our grandchildren to break our hearts. |
