Child Support

Child Support is one of the most necessary essentials in the raising of a child after divorce. We support it, we know it is needed, and we implore you to pay it.

As you might expect, we have very strong thoughts on the various issues of Child Support. We hope after you check out what we have to say, you too will understand, there is several sides to the child support issue and a VERY LARGE problem exists on the backside of the issue.

Child support should be used to make a child's life as normal as possible, after Daddy is gone; that is if they live with Mommie.

But, if they live with Daddy, then child support should be awarded…and it should be used for the same things mentioned above, and Mommie should be made to pay just like Daddy. You need to understand; if they live with Daddy it is rare that Mommie pays her child support. You should also be aware that when child support is awarded to Daddy for Mommie to pay, they do that in hopes that she will fall behind and thus stop her from being able to come back and try to reclaim her children.

CHILD SUPPORT IN THIS COUNTRY IS AN INDUSTRY

I won't quote figures, because to be quiet honest, no one understands them, and no one wants to hear them. The one collecting the support wants it, NOW, and the one paying it wants to know what is being done with it.

Please understand that at least in most states, if you are ordered to pay, NO one has to tell you what is being done with it. Nor, does the state handling the child support case have to tell you if the checks are being cashed, nor, do they have to provide you with proof of who, what, when or where they are being cashed. So, if Mommie testifies in one state that she has not received child support payments, and the payments are being handled in another state…if you are the one paying the support, they do not have to give you copies of the backs of the checks to verify signature. We know someone that was told by the attorney for DHR and also acting as the attorney for Mommie, “I have an order that says he has to pay, I do not have an order that says she has to cash the checks, I don't give a d**n what she does with them.”

So please be conscious to the fact, if you are ordered to pay CHILD SUPPORT, no one has to tell you what is being done with the money. Mommie can spend her child's money on anything she likes, be it alcohol, drugs, cigarettes; clothes for her own use or just go party with it. There is nothing that they have to report to anyone about what they do with their child's money.

I applaud the mothers that expect their child support, except their child support, and use it for the betterment of their child. Our hats are off to you.

We here at Three Sides to Every Story have various stories of child support right here in this office. We have seen and heard horror stories of child support, and we would like to see if we can put a positive twist on the need for child support, and the unnecessary devastation of children over child support.

The need for child support is very real. Children need; clothes, shoes, food, school supplies, sporting supplies, art supplies, presents, medicine and lots of other things. This is an ongoing need from the time they are born, until they are no longer in the custody of a parent, at which time they take care of themselves.

The real problem with child support…the way we see it…is as follows.

Child support in this country is sometimes set so high a man is bound from the beginning to get behind. We know of a man that lost his apartment and was sleeping in his truck to keep his child support caught up so he could see his son only 4 days a month. Mommie and son were living in the family home; they were warm and comfortable, while Daddy was covered up in the back seat of his truck. WRONG, that is just plain wrong.

Most of the men we have talked to are laborers and do the best they can, but there are times they cannot meet the high support payments they are ordered to pay. These men love their children, and they would do anything for them. But when they do not have enough money to go around…A lot of times these men lose their children, and, or they go to jail. WRONG, that is just plain wrong.

There are cases all over the country where women leave their husbands just so they can collect child support…they then run the roads on the support money while their kids are staying with grandma or a friend…and while these children are staying with Grandma and Mommie is running the roads, Daddy gets to see his children 4 days a month, if that! WRONG, that is just plain wrong.

Child support is a means for a mother to have funds to care for her child…when if God forbid her marriage doesn't work out. It is a way for Daddy to make sure his child is taken care of when he is no longer in the house. It is a way for the child to still live with some form of security, if Mommie and Daddy decide they can no longer live together.



Child Support is also a way for the legal community to make a very good living.

 The courts have set child support levels so high; it causes women to see dollar signs, instead of working on her marriage. We know of cases where men were very good providers, loyal to their wives, very good fathers, but yet she wanted out when she found out how much she could collect in child support.

All too often divorced or separated fathers cannot pay the court ordered child support, thus putting them in contempt, and allowing their ex to file for suspension of visitation. Once the visitation is suspended, the groundwork has been laid for the children to be told that daddy no longer loves them.That isn't hard to do, cause Daddy isn't there.

Keep in mind; once this is in place, it is next to impossible for Dad to recover, most states tack on 12% interest on all back monies. The path is now paved with lies and deceit in which the attorneys and judges have allowed to happen. We contend that most, not all, but most judges and attorneys use any and everything they can to help Mommie take children from their father, if that is what Mommie wants and she has the money to pay the attorney fees to make it happen. These attorneys are at fault for using such tactics as sending notices for court appearances to the wrong addresses, and adding things to court papers that are not the truth…and boldly helping women to take children away from very loving fathers…and all for the love of the all mighty dollar.

We are told that Child Support and Visitation have NOTHING to do with each other. However, get behind on your support payments and that is the first thing they do, suspend your visitation, thus making your child suffer by not being able to see you. And, for what, something that most of the time you cannot help. AND, trust us, most of the so-called judges and attorneys do not care that they have torn your child's life apart. There are a few that do care; however if the judge and attorney trying to take your kids are the best of friends, then you have lost before you ever hit the courtroom.

Another thing you need to be very careful about, if and when separation or divorce seems to be right around the corner.

If two states wind up in the middle of your case, you have trouble, BIG trouble. We cannot stress enough to watch what is taking place in BOTH states. The courts in two different states can very much be used one against the other, or they can both side together and keep you from ever seeing your children again. Our very painful case originated in the State of Alabama , but ended up in Georgia . The judge that was assigned our case in Alabama when we filed our motion FIRST, sat on the case for over seven months while the case was moved through the state of Georgia with us fighting it the whole time. Did I mention that he is the husband of the attorney for DHR who was involved in our case on the opposite side? Be careful, keep your eyes open and never trust anyone when it comes to the rights of YOUR children.

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